Your Beliefs May Be Your Stumbling Blocks to a Better Life

If you want to make life improvements, what you believe about life may be your biggest stumbling block. As a self empowered person working to build a better life you may need to adopt the saying that believing is seeing.

If you're a person who believes that seeing is believing, you may be limiting your own growth.Seeing is believing may be the test of truth for many of us, but that doesn't mean that what we see is truth. We tend to see what we expect to see based on what we believe. I may read and re-read this article five times and still not see a misspelling, extra word, or missing word. I read what I expect to see and I believe I've seen it correctly.

To foster a foundation for strong personal growth, change that phrase to read: believing is seeing. What you and I believe will determine what we see. Beliefs are very strong, witness the number of terrorists willing to take their own lives in pursuit of their beliefs. But before we examine the link between beliefs and self empowerment, lets review our five senses and the roles they play in our lives.

We obviously rely on our senses for safety and security, watching for danger around us, listening for unusual sounds around the home at night, sniffing the air for signs of smoke, and carefully approaching the hot pan before grabbing it.

We also tend to depend on our senses to explain the world around us. Most of us believe that the world we experience through our five senses is reality. The sayings, "seeing is believing," and "I'll believe it when I see it," represent our dependence on sight to confirm reality. Recall that most people at one time thought the world was flat; that's the way it appeared. Some few, though, saw beyond their sense of sight and believed the distant horizon was not the edge of the world; they were right and whole new vistas of reality opened because of their vision.

Recall the phrase, "a picture is worth 1000 words?" The implication here is that a picture tells the truth, while words can be deceiving. Now with digital photography, we've learned that we can't really trust a picture. Even I can easily manipulate a picture to remove or include objects. All is not as it appears.

We all know human hearing is limited. As we age, we lose high frequency sensitivity. Many animals respond to frequencies even youthful humans cannot hear. It is only recently that scientists found that elephants communicate through very low frequency sounds--sounds that travel tremendous distances in their native habitats. We know that sounds exist that we cannot hear.

Similarly, our senses of touch, smell, and taste are very limited. Not only do our sensitivities to these vary, but our interpretations vary too. Something that tastes salty to me may be perfect for you. Pleasant odors to you may be distasteful to me.

Scientists, with fair regularity, uncover aspects of our world well beyond our senses. From black holes to quarks to dimensions beyond our space-time reality, there is more to reality than we can currently explain.

It's not only our vision that sometimes deceives us; our minds contribute, too. We see what we expect to see based on our beliefs. When you stop to think about it, that makes perfect sense. Why would I "see" something that contradicts what I believe? Most of us, most of the time, refuse to do that, albeit subconsciously. Scientists even have a term for this phenomena. It's called cognitive dissonance, cognitive for thinking and dissonance for harsh inconsistency. We prefer to see consistent with our thinking.

You've observed this before with a friend or relative who smokes, but refuses to acknowledge that the risks of smoking apply to them. If you've just bought a new object, especially something that you looked for carefully and made a studied decision to purchase, you'll tend to overlook defects or limitations that turn up because to acknowledge them invalidates your belief that you made a wise decision. Cognitive dissonance gives us blinders that scientists term scotomas, blind spots we can't see because to see them would require changing a belief.

If you have strong, long term beliefs about certain people based on gender, age, race, or national origin, you'll have a scotoma to characteristics that belie that belief.

Now, what does all this have to do with self-empowerment? Well, our beliefs about ourselves and the world around us give us scotomas, blind spots, about who we are and who we can become. An example of this is the once broadly held belief that women are inherently inferior to men in math and science. The saying, "you can't teach an old dog new tricks" captures another widely held belief about older people.

Don't get me wrong, the beliefs we hold dear aren't all bad. In fact, our beliefs can be very helpful to us, when they are helpful to us. The empowered person learns to use belief to improve and to grow.

Belief about self is one of the critical components of a person's growth. A strong self image is fundamental to the decision to take over responsibility for one's life. A person with low self image very likely will not feel sufficiently confident to take full responsibility, preferring instead to let others determine their life direction.

Our beliefs not only impact what we see, but they affect every aspect of our lives. As Bert Carson said, "We are more totally confined by our old ideas than a prison inmate is confined by the walls of his cell." Beliefs can be our prison walls or our source of freedom. They are that strong an influence upon us.

Here are some ways to strengthen your sense of self- empowerment.

1. Recall your successes. Think about past achievements and recognize the part you played in this success. Refrain from diminishing your role. Instead, give yourself as much credit as you comfortably can.

2. Read about other people's lives, especially those who have overcome difficult situations to achieve their dreams. These people have the same inherent abilities you have. We're all created with the natural ability to succeed at our dreams. The primary determinants of success are attitude and perseverance.

3. Allow yourself to consider the possibility that you can achieve whatever you dream. Daydream readily visualize how it will be when (not if) you achieve your dreams.

4. Accept that your beliefs are simply ideas you hold about yourself and the world around you, ideas that you've accumulated to help you understand and explain your surroundings. Reflect on beliefs you hold that may be preventing you from the growth you desire; change beliefs that restrict you.

This article first appeared at Suite101.com

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